I have always had a love for my job and an equal love for my hobbies (and they are distinct). For me, they are not the same, but each gives importance to the other. I would not enjoy exercise, adventure travel, and cycling as much if it were not for job...and I do not want to do anything all of the time. So, for me, I had to choose a career that also allowed me plenty of time to pursue my outside interests. My father has never had any hobbies that could not be classified as work (eg. cutting grass, beekeeping, etc)...I think people are healthier if they have time to pursue outside interests, and these interests do not necessarily have to earn an income or produce a worthwhile product. So, what am I saying?...everyone must decide for his/herself what is required to make them feel fulfilled. I need both work and hobbies. I need time for both. I can work hard, but I want maximum time off as well. I think that too often people are not totally honest with themselves in this regard. If someone told me that I could make 2 million dollars/year ,but I would have to work 100 hours/week and could only take 20 days of vacation/year...I would not take it. But this is me...you just have to be honest with yourself about what you are willing to do or not do...what is worth sacrificing?
Finally, I believe you have to "risk it". Not just in your job, but in your relationships. And I am not talking about doing stupid things but taking chances. Can someone divorce you? of course! Can someone die? of course. But you will never know love without giving all yourself...people who give "half ass" get half an ass!! I'll bet that everyone here has been cheated, dumped on, done wrong, etc. at least once. Life is like eating in the school cafeteria...everyone does it and, at least every other day, you will get something you don't like. But you keep trying and you keep giving your all!